We don’t say hate. That is what we say in my house. I would prefer fucking swear words to words like ‘hate’ or ‘never’ or ‘always’. These are the real bad words. Truth is though, I grew up in a hateful house and I hate all the time. I am a hater. I hate the the players, the game , your hair, the system and myself.
Recently though, in the last few years, I’ve found ways to control the hateful thoughts. Turn them positive and/or shut them down. I can now sort of shut them down before they get going. One way is zeroing in on key words like ‘never’ and ‘hate’.
I only hope that I can pass these skills on to my kids now, while they are young, they will then be able to do better than I have.
The damage from hate is immense, it only brings pain to both the hater and the hated. Retaliation, poor decision making, even physical problems can stem from hate. You want a great way to do nothing and still be tired. Sit around and think about your little petty pet peeves and let them turn into hateful thoughts, it will exhaust you.
Learn to let go, just let it the fuck go. Open up and let your guard down just a little. You may find the hate coming in then, but once you shut it down inside, you can shut it down as it comes in from others.
So yeah, these are just words, it’s the thought and the intent behind them that matters. So I watch for the that and don’t ban these words outright, but mostly I don’t say ‘hate’ anymore and I don’t say dumb shit that is akin to hate.
So let’s remember not to hate this election year my fellow Americans.